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unnecessary to say anything further on these topics. I am now reduced very low, within eight or nine days of fubmitting to the inevitable ftroke of death, scarce able to fit up in my bed, or hold a pen for a few minutes. Yet luch is my love to my dear Sophia, that I cannot think of leaving this world, without giving you fome advices proper for you on your intended marriage. Glad thould I have been, if Providence had permitted, to have l'eturned home, and have had my marriage with my lovely Charlotte solemnized on the same day wiin yours.
But I am now to be married to the dust till the great resurrection day, and must for ever bid au adieu to all created pleasures. Your time, I hope, is not yet come; and I wish you may live many years to be an ornament to a Christian prog feffion in the station of a wife and a mother, as you have been in a single eftate; and I heartily with you all health and happiness, and the blefling of God to be with you, in your married state. I know your coufin is a gentleman of fine parts and learning, of a moft agreeable disposition, strict honour, and, what is above all, well acquainted with religion. He has tenderly loved you for some years, and he has juftly met with a return of affection. I would not advise you to poftpone your marriage any time after my decease, but cheerfully take by the hand the dear youth who has long had your heart.
As, upon your marriage, you will leave your father's house, and go with your husband to the great city where he lives ; I hope you will daily reflect on the conduct and economy you have feen observed in the family you leave, as a noble pattern to follow in your own. I know
always loved to go neat and clean. You must take the fame care of your person in your married ftate, remembering that the charms of your per
fon will soon fade ; and therefore you must be careful, by every honest means, to secure the affection of your husband. For this purpose I recommend to you a careful reading of Dr Swift's letter to a young lady on her marriage, from which you will receive some important instructions on this head. Your duty is to love your husband, and obey him in all things lawful. You engage to do so at your marriage ; and a fincere love and obedience to him ought to influence your whole conduct. Study his temper, and endeavour to please him in every thing. You become his property, and must reserve yourself entirely for him, without looking to any other man, Though you are to behave civilly and complaisantly to all, yet you are to love one man alone, without sharing your favours with others. Many women, even after marriage, are exposed to temptations from wicked men. And it becomes my Sophia to be on her guard. Perhaps your perfonal charms may attract some admirers in the city you are to live in. If any shall be so rude as to offend your ears with encoiniums on your beauty, fmutty innuendoes, or amorous propofals; fly from them, and command them to get out of your house, and if they perfift, inform your husband, who will soon banish these locufts. Never keep company with men but in your hus. band's presence, nor be familiar with any. I remember to have heard your honoured mother, who was a very beautiful lady before marriage, and is yet a very lovely woman, though she has born'fo many children, tell, that, before her mar- riage, she was often attacked by a Noble Lord, who offered her 5000 l. for the last favour, and when all his importunities became ineffectual, even promised to marry her honourably; yet the preferred your father, a" country-gentleman, 10 all
the honours of an Earl's coroner. That Lord visited her once and again even after her marriage, and doubled his former sum t@ induce her to grant him one favour : but she ordered him to be. gone, and never enter her house more. In this The acted as every virtuous lady ought to do, and as I hope her daughter will be enabled to do.
I hope my dear fifter, after her marriage, will make due conscience of secret prayers morning and evening, and oftener, as the has opportunity; and also at those feasons read a portion of the sacred fcriptures, and some religious book; that she will regularly attend family-worship, and cause all her fervants do the fame. Let nothing hinder you from even a single diet. As to a constant attend. ance on holy ordinances on the Lord's day, and fanctifying it in your family, just copy the exam. ple set by your worthy parents, and you will act a proper Chriftian part. I advise you against reading plays, novels, and romances, and frequenting the theatres; entertainments, in my opinion, dilhonourable to God, and inconsistent with Christian purity. Avoid too many female acquaintances, and have neither card-tables nor routs in your house. Keep not company late either in your own or others houses, as sitting up late, besides the loss of precious time, will hins der family-worship, and indispose you for secrec duty. Neither visit nor admit visitants on the Lord's day.
If Providence shall bless you with children, be careful to educate them as your parents did you. When God gives you a child, he says, Educate this little one for me. The management
your family, and the education of your children, ought to ingross the most part of your time, except what is allotted to the public and private exercises of
rcligion. And I dare say the pleasure attending it will be a very great motive to perseverance.
As God has blessed your husband with a good fortune, which he may greatly increase, be very charitable to the poor, especially those rich in faith, who shall be heirs of the kingdom of hea
Contribute of your substance for all pious designs of promoting the honour of Christ, and advincing his kingdom in the world.
In short, for I am not able to enlarge, love God and Christ above all things; love and obey your husband, manage your family in the fear of God, cultivate the minds of your children, when Heaven gives you them, and instruct them in the fear of God. And in every thing regulate your conduct according to the will and prescriptions of the holy oracles. Still live mindful of death, con. fidering this world as an inn, in which you are to lodge only for a short while, and then remove to the world of eternity. Live by faith in Chrift; adorn the doctrine of God your Saviour in all things ; and let your light so thine before men, that they, seeing your good works, may glorify your Father which is in heaven.
I am now dying very fast, and longing to be with the Lord Jesus, in those mansions he hath prepared for his followers. Let us then, my dear fister, follow Christ, and we shall enter into the joy of our Lord. Let us build all our hope and confidence on the untainted righteousness of the almighty Saviour, renouncing all our good thoughts, speeches, and deeds, yea all our own righteousnefles as filthy rags,
The righteous Lord loveth righteousness; and nothing is acceptable to him but the righteousness of the man who is his fellow ; and no man will be accepted of him, but he that is clothed with the righteousness of the incarnate Redeemer. O fifter, be covered with this glorious robe as your wedding. garment; and Christ will grace your nuptials, and vouchsafe
his gracious presence in pour maried life. Let him be your fpiritual husband, and he will be an husband to you for ever, and make your earthly husband a comfort to you. Still remember, that your M.ker, whose name is the Lord of hosts, is your husband, a husband that will not die, as Mr Ts will do; a royal husband, who will adorn you with all the honours of grace here, and all the thining rays of glory hereafter, and place you on his radiant throne for eyer ; a husband that loved you with an ever• lasting love, that with loving-kindnels hath drawn you, loves you now amidst all
instances of unfaithfulness, and unkindness, and will love you to the end. Remember then, that the utmost purity and chastity is required of the bride, the Lamb's wife; even holiness in heart and life, and a walking in all the ordinances and commandments of the Lord blameless.
As my dear Charlotte will be greatly alarmed at the news of my death, and her delicate frame may be much shocked at the dismal tidings; I hope my beloved lifter Sophia will open every. spring of comfort she can think of, for dispelling her grief, and weaning her attention from an object that ought no longer to ingrofs her thoughts. As you are her bed-fellow, and have more intimacy with her than any body else, I recommend her to your care and sympathy, under the loss the must sustain of one who will remember her to God to his dying hour. I have wrote her, and recommended my valuable friend Mr Nu, as one every way worthy of her. I hope you will affift him, and persuade dear Charlotte to consult her real interest. This is the last letter I am to write ; and ere