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This has been the fettled judgment of the men most renowned for their understanding, in all ages: and, as it is finely expressed in the Wisdom of Solomon: I cannot recommend it with greater energy and authority, than by giving it to the reader in his own words, "What hath pride profited us? Or what good have riches, with our vaunting-, brought us? AU those things are passed away like a shadow, and as a post, that haiteth by; and as a (hip, that passeth over the waves of the water, which, when it is gone by, the trace thereof cannot be found, neither tho path way of the keel in the waves: or as when a bird hath flown through the air, there is no token of her way to be found; but the light air being beaten with the stroke of her wings, and parted with the violent noise and motion of them, is passed through; and therein afterwards no sign, where (he went, is to be found: or like as when an arrow is shot at a mark, it parteth the air, which immediately cometh together again; so that a man cannot know where it went through: even so we in like, manner, as soon as we were born, began to draw to our end, and had no sign of virtue to shew; but were consumed in pur own wickedness."

The Charatlejf of Lady Marow, by Bishop Hough.

[From his Lordship's Sermon on her death; of which only a few copies were printed in ly 15.]

BECAUSE example operates more powerfully than precept; and people are more easily led into a path, where they fee others have gone before them, than if it were only pointed out; I beg leave to shew in a short character of the deceased, that she had not studied the text [Malachi iv. 2.], nor made it the subject of her contemplation in vain: For flie truly feared God; she knew the weakness of human nature: that what Isaiah says of the Jews in the beginning of his prophecy, she might very properly apply to it in this degenerategenerate state: "That the whole head was sick, and the whole heart Lint: that from the sole ot the foot, even unto the head, there was no soundness in it: but wounds and bruises, and putrifying sores;" that they flood in the utmost need of being " closed and bound up, and mollified with ointment;" and she had recourse to the only hand that could do

From her infancy she had a very tender and nice constitution; which (though supported by regularity and constant temperance) did by frequent indispositions put her in mind, that she was not to expect much ease from it, or imagine it made for any long duration. But (he had a native cheerfulness, and a calm, even temper, that enabled her to make the best of it; and whatsoever she felt within, she was too well bred to let it trouble her friends. As she grew up. she passed into new scenes of life, and found exercise tor her virtues in every one of them.

As a wife; she made it her business to discover and comply with the inclination of her husband: To have her family, her table, the choice of her acquaintance, her conduct, and even her dress, such as she thought would be most agreeable to him: and if it fell outthat in any point she failed of that end, it might give trouble and concern, but never provoked,her to a complaint. She would try to be more successful another time, and change her method, though ia contradiction to her judgment.

Asa mother; she was tender, indulgent, and impartial to her children: her cares were equally dividend amongst them; and if at any time one seemed to have more than another, it was when indisposition gave a claim to it, and they all found it in their turns. Had any of them been stubborn, or untractable, 1 cannot fay how well she would have been qualified for the rougher part of discipline. I am sure (he herself would have been the greatest sufferer in the use of it, having an abhorrence in her nature to severity; and but a very poor opinion os virtue that was forced. But blessed be God, she had no occasion to act this part, for she had ingenuous minds to deal with, who learned their duty from observation; she shewed them in herself what was honourable, ajid becoming, and they fell easily into imitation, unconstrained.

As a mijirrfs; she was kind and gentle to her servants, willing to accept of their endeavours to please, and ready to overlook little miscarriages. If they commuted greater faults, her concern was more to make them sensible, than to

reprove reprove or punish: always bearing in mind, that servitude is an hard condition of life, which they who are borri to command, are bound in conscience to lighten, lest, ignorance should make the poor give way to unjust thoughts of Providence. Whence it came to pass, that she was served with affection, and her people had a more than ordinary care not Cp offend her, that they might not grieve themselves.

To her Tenants and inferior Neighbours she was beneficent and liberal, easy of access, and courteous in reception, of them; nor did she suffer them in any exigencies to want those helps that her kitchen, her closet, or her cabinet could supply. To persons above or on her own level, she never was wanting in what became the circumstance and occasion. She perfectly well understood what was due to them, and to herself; and all she did was with a natural easy grace, that shewed she was no stranger to forms, but had conquered the strictness of them. Her acquaintances were numerous, and of the best; yet she was so happy in an excellent temper, that few, if any, were contented with that name; they saw something that was to be coveted beyond it, and advanced towards the distinction of friends. And, that God might bless her in the discharge of her duty, and make her sincere endeavours answer their respective ends, she allowed no sort of avocation to interrupt her attendance upon Him. Her stated times of retirement were punctually observed, and the public assembly (if flie could help it) never missed her.

Thus she behaved in the married slate. When she became a widow she was above the affectation of a sullen reserve, because she never had levity that needed to be corrected: yet she chose to,withdraw herself from public diversions, and had no reluctancy in parting with them. She had been accustomed to give her thoughts a serious and useful turn: she weighed the world in the balance of a true judgment; and notwithstanding all its pretensions, knew-what it was, and what (he was to expect from it: this made her eaiiv to wean herself from the innocent gaieties and pardonable vanities of life; which lookers-on would have indulged without censure to her condition, age, and fortune. But a thorough good understanding had deprived them of their relish, and lhe silently stol« from them, without leaving a reflection upon those that continued to have a taste for them.

She had a quick apprehension, and could fwhen she had a mind) carry it into the consideration of public affairs, which slie was the better qualified to judgs of, because entirely dispassionate !>assionate and disinterested. But where (he could not avoid t, (he went with reluctancy into the complaining side, and was best pleased where any thing of ill appearance was so far doubtful, as to admit of a favourable construction.

Her greatest satisfaction was in the enjoyment of her children, and in the company of her acquaintance and friends! amongst whom (he was careful not to assume more than her part in conversation; and if it was not always edifying.it was much against her will if it was not inoffensive; for the rules of good manners (in the religious and civil fense) were sacred to her; no heat or passion, no reflections, or illnatured touches upon the present or the absent, ho disparagement of others, or commendation, though never so re* mote, of herself, could get a passage through her lips: and if others transgressed in any point, which could very rarely happen in the company (he kept, her dislike of it was easy to be observed, in a careless attendance, or a dead silence.

Thus unblameable in conduct; thus disengaged from the World; thus taught and experienced in the frailties and imperfections of it, she stood in a preparation, when God, should call, to leave it willingly, upon its own account; but she had stronger motives to attend that call, which made her watch for it, not only with resignation, but with pleasure. Her eyes were intent upon the place to which (he must go: her heart was fixed upon those joys that are substantial and unchangeable: she knew she should leave mortality behind her; that " death should be swallowed up in victory;" that she.should not be held a moment under the dominion of it j for the Sun of Righteousness would immediately arise upon her.

It was this expectation, that made her proof against a lingering and a sickly decay. It was in the strength of this hope, that she saw death make its attacks; perceived him to gain ground every day, and never felt an inward shock. When medicine was ineffectual, she was not disappointed; in the most uneasy moments she uttered no impatience: she prayed, indeed, for a calm passage, but it was with an entire submission to the will of God; and when she considered that the chambers of death were of painful approach, and the grave was the gate through which she must of necessity pass to a better life, she went down undauntedly, by such steps as Providence had ordained, in full confidence, that

through through the merits of her Redeemer, {he was firmly entitled to, and should undoubtedly possess a part in it.

They that knew the Lady Marow will subscribe to what I have said concerning her: and I rather apprehend they will Think the character (hon and defective, than that I have exceeded in it. But methinks, upon these occasions, preachers ought religiously to forbear heightenings, and glaring colours. I have endeavoured to do justice to the graces God had endowed her with, for otherwise I should blemish them. But I have not been unmindful they would be more hurt by being stretched beyond their due proportion.

She was buried in the church of St. James, Westminster, where is a monument with the following epitaph written by bishop Hough.

"Near this place lies Mary Lady Marow, only daughter of Sir Arthur Caley; married first to Sir Samuel Marow, Bart, asfxwards to Francis Fisher, Esq. both of WarwickIhire.

She was a lady of ■uncommon merit, and exemplary in ■every state of life; religious, and truly charitable, without ostentation, habitually good and virtuous, without intermission. Her conversation was always agreeable and inoffensive, guarded with prudence, and quickened with good fense; easy to the meanest, and not abject to the greatest, which made her universally known to, and esteemed by persons of the first wnk; valued by her equals, honoured by her inferiors, and belovedby all. She had a firmness of mind, that abundantly made amends for a weak and tender constitution; supporting her in all extremity to that degree, that no cause of grief, no pain, or sickness, could extort a complaint from her; she resigned herself entirely to the will of God, and the succours of his Holy Spirit never failed her; so that in the whole course of her life, and to the last moment of it, (he was a bright and edifying example of faith, meekness, and patience. By Sir Samuel Marow she had many children, five whereof are still living. Anne, married to Sir Arthur Kaye, Bart. Elizabeth; Ursula, married to Robert Wilmot, Esq. Mary, married to John Kn-ghtley, Esq. aud Arabella.

From their father they have a plentiful inheritance; and from their mother (what is infinitely more valuable] the blessing of having been educated and formed after such a pattern.. She died October 10,1714. Ætat, 63."

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Vil XIII. Churchm. Mag.ferfy. 1807.

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